So I had to ponder over whether to post this, and my wife and I decided together that it could be helpful to others going through anything similar. This is one of the fortunate parts of being anonymous for the time being. If things go wrong, I can share without having to feel overly exposed, and potentially help others in the process.
On Saturday, without giving too much detail, my wife said she noticed some spotting. We had to sleep on it, because it was later in the evening, but we went out and got a home test again yesterday, and according to that, we're still good. She'll talk to the doctor this week, and then we'll have a clearer picture of what's up, but as far as we know, it's still on. I will talk about it if things don't work out, but I'll stay anonymous if that's the case.
But let's be clear: we're still hopeful!
I think it's important to talk about when things go less than perfectly. Miscarriages happen to a LOT of families, and while you probably don't want to dwell on it too much, you also shouldn't have to feel ashamed or embarrassed about it. This is a very natural occurrence, and without some discussion, it's hard to learn or know what to do. I also always think it's amazing how families (and, let's face it, mothers) end up sharing previously unknown histories when such sad events occur. I guess you let sleeping dogs lie if you can, but you keep your well of stories available if they're needed.
After talking it over, my wife and I agreed that one of the saddest things that could happen in such a case would be to lose all of your enthusiasm or optimism next time you tried to get pregnant. She was so excited to go out and get a baby journal, and I was loving the idea of sharing my own perspective through this blog. What happens to all of that energy when a pregnancy doesn't work out? We both made an agreement that no matter what happens in the coming weeks and months, we'll do our absolute best retain all of our excitement and enthusiasm.
On Saturday, without giving too much detail, my wife said she noticed some spotting. We had to sleep on it, because it was later in the evening, but we went out and got a home test again yesterday, and according to that, we're still good. She'll talk to the doctor this week, and then we'll have a clearer picture of what's up, but as far as we know, it's still on. I will talk about it if things don't work out, but I'll stay anonymous if that's the case.
But let's be clear: we're still hopeful!
I think it's important to talk about when things go less than perfectly. Miscarriages happen to a LOT of families, and while you probably don't want to dwell on it too much, you also shouldn't have to feel ashamed or embarrassed about it. This is a very natural occurrence, and without some discussion, it's hard to learn or know what to do. I also always think it's amazing how families (and, let's face it, mothers) end up sharing previously unknown histories when such sad events occur. I guess you let sleeping dogs lie if you can, but you keep your well of stories available if they're needed.
After talking it over, my wife and I agreed that one of the saddest things that could happen in such a case would be to lose all of your enthusiasm or optimism next time you tried to get pregnant. She was so excited to go out and get a baby journal, and I was loving the idea of sharing my own perspective through this blog. What happens to all of that energy when a pregnancy doesn't work out? We both made an agreement that no matter what happens in the coming weeks and months, we'll do our absolute best retain all of our excitement and enthusiasm.
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